One of the most common desires I consistently hear, and have heard in my practice over the last 13 years, is the desire to identify purpose and live an authentic life.

We as humans have a deep, God-given, innate need to contribute and make a difference, to have what we’re doing with our days line up with what we think is worthwhile.

It’s an innate human need to feel like we are part of something bigger, that we are doing something valuable, that we are contributing in some significant way.

Whether you have what you would call a career or a job, or if you’re investing full-time at home, or are volunteering in the church or community, it’s all about contributing and making a difference in the world.

Seasons of our life affect how intensely we feel that need, and it’s individual for everyone.

Some chapters are intense with making ends meet, taking care of children or elderly parents, juggling the everyday responsibilities of life.  Purpose might feel like a luxury you don’t have time for.

But in some seasons, there’s more room – you might be *feeling* less needed as your kids get older, for example.

You might be feeling the nagging sense that what you’re currently doing is not very worthwhile.

In every single chapter of life, please know that you are just as worthy, and you are making a difference by just being you.

Having said that, there is no way around admitting it is still extremely difficult to feel like you’re living an authentic life when you’re spending your days doing something that you don’t think is valuable or doing something you don’t really care about.

Life is just too short to feel like your wasting your days.


There are three keys I want to share to help you identify your purpose and start taking steps towards living a truly authentic life:


1) Identifying our purpose begins with our thoughts – mindset is foundational.

Begin with trust that God wants to make it clear to you, that He will guide you. Believe that you can and will identify and bring to life your purpose.

Remember that there is nothing that can make you more worthy, valuable, or whole – understanding your purpose and contributing in what you feel is a worthwhile way included.

As children of God we have purpose in glorifying God, reflecting His character, knowing Him and making Him known as we live our lives.

Without understanding those foundational principles, we can end up just chasing a feeling.

Having the foundational belief that we are valuable, worthy, and whole is an essential starting point.


2) Understand that your purpose is not out there. It is IN you. YOU bring it to life, you uncover it, you choose it, you create it.

It is not “missing” when you’re not conscious of it.

There is not a straightforward right thing or a wrong thing you could “find.”

It can feel so heavy when we say we have to “find” our purpose – like it’s lost.

That pressure, that heaviness, shuts us down and is really counterproductive when we want to uncover our purpose.


3) Purpose is identified primarily through unlocking the combination of three things:

  • Our values – what’s most important and uniquely important to us
  • Our natural talents, abilities, and aptitudes– what we’re uniquely gifted to do
  • Our past experiences and deep interests

Your natural aptitudes – what you’re actually gifted and designed to do – can be easily and effectively identified through the objective aptitude assessment I administer, the Highlands Ability Battery. Click here to discuss how you can take it.

But identifying your values, your significant past experiences, and deep interests takes introspection and thorough reflection.

Don’t rush through the process of getting clear on those essential pieces – they’re worth your time and careful evaluation.

Once you have all the pieces of the puzzle laid out, you’ll be able to unlock their powerful combination and identify your authentic purpose.

And you’ll be ready to evaluate the needs of your community, country, and the world, and how your unique purpose intersects with the opportunities you’ve identified.

There is nothing like finding the intersection between your unique purpose and the needs in your world.

Harnessing the opportunities to make your unique contribution, whether you’re seeking a full- or part-time career or a volunteer area of contribution, is priceless.

If you’d like help identifying your purpose, crafting your unique area of contribution, and creating an authentic life, I’d love to help.

Click here to schedule a mini-consult to discuss how we can work together to help you uncover your purpose.

To creating an authentic life –


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